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What is a time
out?
When your child is doing something that
endangers themselves or others, through their actions and behaviour. Time-out
sends them away from the trouble spot, and into an area such as a room,
chair, quiet corner, hallway, crib, or playpen. It's best used with children
aged 2 to 12 years.
How should
you do time out?
Don't give endless warnings and empty
threats.
Don't shout.
Time-out should occur in a safe but
non-interesting spot. that means, not interaction with other kids, no tv
and includes no interaction with you , the parent.
If the child refuses to go into
time-out - lead mby the hand to the timeout area.
When putting the child in time-out,
briefly explain what they have done and assoicate it with the time out.
A simple phrase such as No hitting is enough. Do not lecture and do not
spank. Time-out is not the time for teaching or preaching.
Do not negotiate with a child in time-out.
Completely ignore him, even if he shouts, bangs or apologizes.
When time-out is over, it is over. Create
a fresh start by offering a new activity. Dont discuss the unwanted behaviour,
just move on.
How long should
time-out last?
Time-out should last 1 minute for each
year of your child's age. It should not last for more than 5 minutes. Use
a kitchen egg timer. Make sure you put it where your child can see and
hear it and you can hear the alarm too.
If they leaves time-out, put them back
quickly and reset the timer. This teaches her that you mean what you say.
Be consistent.
What about other
children?
If your other children touch the timer,
or tease their brother or sister in time-out, they should be also placed
in time-out.
How does time-out
end?
Make it clear that you are in control
of when time-out ends. Go to your child's corner and say, "Time-out is
over. You can get up now." Clear the air. When time-out is over, it's
over.
If your child repeats the behaviour that
led to the time-out in the first place, repeat the whole process. If used
properly, time-out will eventually work.
Remember, your child should know that time-out
is directed toward the their misbehaviour not themselves as a person. It's
important not to hurt your child's self-esteem by instilling shame, guilt,
loss of trust, or feelings of abandonment.
Source/Reference:
1-2-3 Magic: Training your children to do what you want (120 min.).
This information should not be
used as a substitute for the medical care and advice of your physician.
There may be variations in treatment that your physician may recommend
based on individual facts and circumstances.
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